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Tnx Strat, Tnx Matt! ,-)

 

Strat: Jamie is SHE = female = wife = boobs ,-p

Good to hear yours is coming up already! I honestly thought you were married for some time already... I know you talked about it ages ago!

 

rgds,

 

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Tnx all!

 

Yes Ernest, she knows... I even had to figure out a way how to ask her dad (in person) who lives half a globe away... etc...

 

 

We'll get married in Belgium (Europe, that invisible country wrapped around Brussels)... nothing fancy, small wedding... getting married is just signing a contract so your wife or later kids get money when you die, or vica versa... nothing romantic... I mean: i don't need to get married for all that kind of romantic stuff! ,-p I have that without being married too!!

(And to all of you who won't know/believe me: I'm serious about this: this is my only reason to get married... and a realistic one: my dad died at the age of 37... Life can be over any second, better start living now and enjoy every minute left!!! ,-)))

 

 

 

rgds,

 

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I mean: i don't need to get married for all that kind of romantic stuff! ,-p I have that without being married too!!

(And to all of you who won't know/believe me: I'm serious about this: this is my only reason to get married... and a realistic one: my dad died at the age of 37... Life can be over any second, better start living now and enjoy every minute left!!! ,-)))

rgds,

nisus

 

Interesting. I got married 3 years ago after being together for 22 years. We have an 18 year old son.

 

Our reason was nothing to do with love or commitment (we already had that after 22 years!), it was for financial security after one of us died. In the UK, Co-habbiting couples have no rights (unlike gay couples).

 

But the funniest thing was when I renewed my car insurance shortly afterwards, and I was given a £70 discount for being married!

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Tnx All!

 

Dibbers: Glad I'm not alone with only the financial security thinking! In Belgian co-habitation can 'kind of' become the same status of a marriage, but than again... 10x more paperwork and still a 'kind of'... I prefer no risk for wife and kids!

 

Good to see you finally secured your wife and son too!

 

Honestly, I hear many people say: ah we are young, we won't die... right!

My aunt (divorced and living together in a 5 years relationship) just recently became a 'widow', but because she was not married to her new boyfriend, his ex who could not stand him inherits everything... Anyone can picture more stories like this...

 

so yes... people die before 40!

 

rgds,

 

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getting married is just signing a contract so your wife or later kids get money when you die, or vica versa... nothing romantic... I mean: i don't need to get married for all that kind of romantic stuff! ,-p I have that without being married too!!

 

Oh no, no no my young friend. Being married (forget 'getting' married) is a fundamental change in who you both are. My wife and I were committed co-habitators before our wedding (21 years ago) and so I didn't expect much more than the insurance discount, either. But everything is different. In my case different for the better, and I suspect in yours, too. The pairing of people is older than recorded history, it is a very important part of the human condition. Because it changes how you behave, how you see the world.

 

In my DVC presentation I started with the idea that art is when something you have made is greater than the sum of its parts. A marriage can be that. Make your union a work of art!

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The pairing of people is older than recorded history, it is a very important part of the human condition. Because it changes how you behave, how you see the world

 

Well, that's also a reason of course, but I see this more as a result of a devoted relationship than the marriage ;-)

 

Make your union a work of art!

 

We are working on that! Tnx for your wise words! ,-)

 

rgds,

 

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Looooooooooooolllll...

 

unfortunately, I'm not really scared of kids, nor having them... I've done tons of diapers babysitting as a teenager! (This one had to do something to be afford a huge cd-collection... moeah!)

 

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Yeah don't forget the wedding. This really important. I have met many people who didn't have a nice wedding or let "her family" dictate the wedding. You need to make that a great time. I really believe you can get strength from you wedding as it becomes a resource that you can draw on the rest of your life together. I really believe there is the magic of art in a good wedding and if the 2 of you can create in that moment a celebration that really touches the 2 of you you will keep that with you for ever. When times get hard (they will) you can draw on that moment and it will make you stronger.

 

The best advice I have heard on marriage is from Joseph Campbell during the Bill Moyers interview. They he talks about the precious and who or what is the precious. He contends that it should not be you or your wife but the marrigae should be the beloved. Then the important decisions you make in your life you make to make the marriage stronger.

 

Who is this woman Nisus? Is this the American girl you were visiting 2 Siggraphs ago?

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